Our Story

I figured that since this week I would be focusing on introducing you all more to my inspirations for the blog and for my life in general I should probably start of with the how our beautiful chaos came to be. 

 (The image shared are random of us not order really)

I was 19, fresh out of my first marriage with my older two girls, Dakota was about 2 and Alora was around 6 months when I moved to Dothan, Alabama to live with my mom and step dad to get on my feet. Being a teenage single mom of two would have to be one of the hardest jobs out there, but it was and always will be so VERY WORTH IT!

I was working full time in the photo lab at Wal-Mart and I was getting ready to start college full time for journalism.

Ant was also fresh out of a bad relationship and was working at Wal-Mart full time in the meat department. 

Since we worked on opposite sides of the stores we only saw each other in passing and maybe in the break room. We never really talked to each other in there, but we were caught a few times checking the other one out.

At this particular Wal-Mart the night before inventory it was mandatory that the whole staff be there from 9 pm until the store was completely zoned and ready to be counted. That year we were there til 2 am and I will never forget it. I happened to be on the spaghetti sauce aisle zoning and prepping it for inventory when we walked over to help. Since my dumb ass self wore a skirt that day (I FORGOT!) he was kind enough to reach all the things I couldn't since it would have had me up and down a latter and well we ALL know that would be a sight... smh...

We chatted the zone away and it was down hill from there...

Later after the zone that night the photo lab crew and some other firends all went to Waffle House for a LATE LATE LATE dinner it was tradition, and after we went back to work to collect cars and head home for a few hours to go to work the next day. 

Ant happened to still be in the parking lot when we got back so me and a few friends stayed a little while longer and was chatting it up with him and a few of the other guys hanging out.

Me and him became closer and closer over time and started talking more and more. 

He disappeared for a few months after leaving Wal-Mart and I couldn't find him. Over that time I had moved out of my moms, had a new boyfriend but was still at Wal-Mart. 

Ant popped up about 4 months later and it was like he had never left. 

Since I was in a relationship at that time Ant and I became best friends. 

As time moved on I left the relationship and Ant and I became official. 

He moved in with me and the girls and we became a family.

When things got busy with me between work and school I moved out of my apartment and moved back home with my mom. This caused Ant to have to move home too. 

We saw each other daily still and soon decided on a child between us. 

I had gotten a promise ring the first Christmas we were together and I knew one day in 20 and never as we always said we would get married. I was not ready for another marriage at the time and nor was I going to get married just because of a baby.. again.

Aaliyah was born the day after Ant's birthday in 2007. Ant and I had been together for almost 3 years. That June we got married on a whim in his mom's living room. 

My family did not know for two weeks prior and honestly we were still living separately for almost a month after saying I do.  

As you can tell we are FAR from traditionalist and we tend to do things the hard way... what can I say I have always been known as a rebel.

The first several years we moved A LOT,  and depended on our families for help on so many levels. We had to make a change...

The last 4 years we have been in Arkansas with no family except for my god father close by. We don't have our moms near by to call for help, to watch the kids for date nights, to go over for dinner to see the rest of the family etc. It has been VERY HARD at times but in ways I am glad we did it. 

November 1st we will have been together for 12 years in June we will have been married for 9. To say that our marriage has been all happily ever after, and rainbows and butterflies would be a lie. 

We fight, yell, scream at each other. We hardly agree on things since we are both opposites in EVERY WAY possible, we have witnessed births, deaths, weddings, divorces, affairs,  drama, drama, drama and more drama. Which is to be expected since we both come from LARGE families (He is one of 7 and I am one of 9 well make that 10 now). BUT with all of this we fit, we are what is needed to balance each other out. I am patient where he is not, he is strict where I am more laid back, he is all about the kids sports where I handle the arts, the list goes on. 

We BOTH do however LOVE our ink :)

We didn't require a huge fairy tale wedding, hell we are still laid back on our date nights. As a matter of fact Saturday night we had not kids for the longest time and what did we do?

Had Chex Mix for dinner and watched movies... 

Here's to more years of our beautiful chaos